A few words about dating
Successful dating and finding the right person to settle down with can take some time, especially if you want to be absolutely sure about the person you choose. A. Spasov shares his advice on how to master the art of dating, suggesting questions for men and women to ask themselves before stepping in.
When a man goes out on a date, he should be clear and direct about what he expects. He shouldn’t create false expectations to get companionship or sex from a woman. If a man isn’t interested in a committed relationship, then he should tell her the truth. Always! No exceptions. He shouldn’t lie to her and then step out on her later.
And here are the big four secrets that every self-respecting gentleman should apply.
The big four secrets of any successful dating
There are four important factors that each self-respecting man has to obtain and master in order to be successful in the art of pick-up dating. Those factors are:
- Express humor in all its forms
- Show sincere curiosity and natural interest in the other person
- Demonstrate your sexuality as an independent person
- Show self-confidence as a happy person
If you manage to master all four of these qualities, your success in attracting and retaining the attention of the opposite sex is guaranteed. Women of all tastes will be attracted and drawn to you. Now, let’s dive a little deeper into those four factors.
The first important factor to consider is your sense of humor. Understanding and creating humor require a sequence of mental operations. Cognitive psychologists favor a three-stage theory of humor. To be in on the joke, you need to be able to:
- Mentally represent the set up of the joke.
- Detect an incongruity in its multiple interpretations.
- Resolve the incongruity by inhibiting the literal, non-funny interpretations, and appreciating the meaning of the funny one.
An individual’s knowledge is organized in mental memory structures called schemas. When we see or think of something, it activates the relevant schema—that is, our body of knowledge on that particular topic immediately comes to mind.
You might not know it but your sense of humor has five different forms that are equally important to the opposite sex. Those forms are:
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- Irony – Irony can be categorized into different types, including verbal irony, dramatic irony, and situational irony. Verbal, dramatic, and situational irony are often used for emphasis in the assertion of a truth.
- Self-irony – the ability to laugh at oneself, to take oneself lightly.
- Absurd humor – Absurd humor consists of describing absurd situations that do not have to retain a close connection with reality or any logical explanation. For instance: “Your words hit me so hard that after our date I will surely have to visit the doctor!
- Imitation of other people – If you have acting skills now is the time to show them off. Make a girl laugh and she is all yours – her heart belongs to you. Always smile! Remember, smiling speaks more words than your mouth does. It shows that you are a person that fits in the stereotype of “normal”.
- Situational irony or thematic humor- When you are in a tense situation the more humor you use the more pressure is released from both of you.
Curiosity
You have to acknowledge the other person as an interesting universe, consisting of many subjects to talk about. You have to show your interest in the content of the personality and different virtues that a woman owns. You should ask questions and be а patient listener. Never argue! Just listen and do not hurry to change the subject but make sure that you have discussed all the information that the current subject offers.
If you would like to learn more and become an expert in successful dating and pick-up, feel free to book a coaching session with A. Spasov.